III

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7.15.22.


III

Ouuuu, Baby!

___

By Chrys D.

‘Ouuu Baby BayBay!’

…ba baby baby!!!

First let me start by saying I no longer desire to conceive a child. I know that sounds a tad callous to say, but it’s a truth. I also have an extremely valid reason as well. I’ll explain. 

In the 1st couple years of my marriage, my baby fever was so fucking intense! My brother & his girlfriend at the time just had their first child. At the time I was knee deep in crafting, & had created selfie frames for several baby showers. I was just genuinely happy to be around that energy. Meanwhile at home, my Endo was so out of whack, when I missed a period I’d run out for a pregnancy test. Only to be disappointed with the result each time. Private heartbreak. I’d later learn that having a kid with “him” wasn't the move anyway.

(pictured with my nephew Caleb Jr. 2015)



Although I experienced the sadness of potential infertility due to Endo, I was never discouraged from CELEBRATING OTHERS!  In 2019 my youngest sister had her first son. I was directly involved with this pregnancy, so I felt like I was the OBGYN LMAO! Since then I’ve continued to be a part of countless friends  & family’s births & celebrations. Made countless wood baby monograms & framing.

I also have seen the difficult side of pregnancy. The doctors not respecting wishes that are within means. The mother-infant mortality rate (predominantly amongst Black Women) riing because doctors just want the  money but not invested in the human. 

In my eyes holistic birthing should be just as much of an option as anything else.

And a woman should forever possess this right.



Love, & Thanks for Vibing with ThaMonthly

Comments

  1. Pateizia Weeks Sneed7/16/2022 7:09 AM

    Beautifully written love, I'm praying for you and your Endo journey. I agree some docs are in it just for the money, I was blessed when I had mine that my doctors actually listened to me.

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