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12.14.22

VII
Tha Period & Tha Partner

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By Chrys D.

‘Loving you whether…”

…times are good or bad, happy or sad.

As women (& honestly just as humans), we all desire someone who WANTS to deal with us. Someone who doesn’t mind ‘bringing up the rear’ or ‘taking up the slack’ when something goes awry. You know, the whole ‘sickness & in health’ bit. But Chile sometimes sadly that’s just NOT the case.

In all fairness, everyone wasn’t created the exact same. Some of us are natural born providers. Some of us are worker bees who refuse to make ourselves available for emotional attachment. But some of us are natural nurturers. Or maybe just strongly possess the ‘kind’ gene, & to have that is truly a blessing.

I’ve fortunately & unfortunately been on both sides of this spectrum. In my last relationship, I was neglected in every way possible. I experienced many lonely & terrifying ER visits. And sadly, on one of the most important days of my life (my fibroid removal surgery), my ex husband told me he was ‘sick of me being a burden’.

To date that has been the most devastating thing a person has ever said to me. 

Fast forward to the beautiful soul that is currently in my life. In our 4 year tenure, she has never allowed me to lift a finger. Ever. Her words, gentleness & overall genuine concern for my well-being is one of the most comforting things a woman can have. 

A sense of peace. Not feeling this () small when I’m sick or in pain. I say all of this to say no matter what dynamic you have with your partner, always be kind! Give grace! Just remember to have a basic regard for human life. 

Most Importantly, be kind to yourself. 


Love, & as always Thanks for Vibing with Tha Monthly.

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