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  ThaMonthly   1.9.23 VIII Sex & Tha Period ___ By Chrys D. “All I Wanna do is Zooma Zoom Zoom Zoom…” … ina Poom Poom. In my personal unpopular opinion, sex is STRICTLY PROHIBITED while I’m on my cycle! The pain that already comes with my PCOS/Endo would never allow it. And as clingy as I am with my gorgeous girlfriend, sometimes I don’t even want to be touched! However, very common in the sexual diaspora, receiving your ‘red wings’ or ‘parting the red sea’ is most definitely a thing! Even beyond the potential ‘sexual’ association, we all want a partner (male or female) to morally support us in that inevitable time of the month. And sometimes, that means doing the ‘No Pants Dance!’ It has been said that sex during menstruation has certain benefits. Among these are: An increased arousal Strengthened connection with your partner Relief from cramps Possible shorter periods To be transparent (& maybe a little TMI), I have experienced lessened cramps from self-gratification in the l

  ThaMonthly   12.14.22 VII Tha Period & Tha Partner ___ By Chrys D. ‘Loving you whether…” …times are good or bad, happy or sad. As women (& honestly just as humans), we all desire someone who WANTS to deal with us. Someone who doesn’t mind ‘bringing up the rear’ or ‘taking up the slack’ when something goes awry. You know, the whole ‘sickness & in health’ bit. But Chile sometimes sadly that’s just NOT the case. In all fairness, everyone wasn’t created the exact same. Some of us are natural born providers. Some of us are worker bees who refuse to make ourselves available for emotional attachment. But some of us are natural nurturers. Or maybe just strongly possess the ‘kind’ gene, & to have that is truly a blessing. I’ve fortunately & unfortunately been on both sides of this spectrum. In my last relationship, I was neglected in every way possible. I experienced many lonely & terrifying ER visits. And sadly, on one of the most important days of my life (my fibroid

  ThaMonthly   10.22.22 VI But, Do I Matter Tho? ___ By Chrys D.  ‘Life is like a box of chocolates…’ … you never know what you’re gonna get.  There is no fucking reason a woman should feel her job (or anything for that matter) will be jeopardized due to her reproductive condition! No way!! As women we already have to endure so much. For the demographic of women that currently (or luckily never) have had this issue, I commend you! To the other women (like myself) who periodically are subjected to this, I’m so incredibly sorry.  My last job tried to terminate me because leaving work to go to the hospital for a ruptured cyst was a “6th absence”. So they suspended me until they had a ‘verdict’ on if they would fire me in the next 4 days.  I resigned.  The last few weeks have been very reflective. I’ve truly been allowing myself grace to know my full worth & that I MATTER. That I don’t have to stay anywhere I’m not valued. I’m learning that my past does not have to infiltrate my future

  ThaMonthly  9.26.22 V Don’t Deal, Heal. ___ By Chrys D.  ‘Sometimes you feel like a nut!’ …sometimes, you don’t. For the female species, most times the manner in which we heal is not always absolute. Our healing process always has to be amended--or squandered in some way, shape or form. Allotted time for work, school, family etc is always mandatory. But when it comes to self care, we truly neglect ourselves. So just imagine: all of your normal, daily hustle & bustle. Then add a reproductive issue, menopause, or pregnancy to that mix. Overwhelming, huh? Whether you use crystals, meditate & pray, consume herbs, or take a nice long bath/shower, healing is so essential! Years & years I limited myself to just a hot bath complete with a heating pad session immediately after. I learned that the older I became, the less this worked for me. By the age of 25, my ovarian cysts at the time controlled my whole life. Pain so severe the hottest water or heat coils couldn’t aid it! Many

ThaMonthly 8.12.22. IV The Period & The Paycheck ___ By Chrys D. ‘Make that money’ …don’t let that money make you. Ok Gang so look. This blog post & the language that accompanies it will be a tad bit rougher than normal, so buckle up :) As I’m sure with a zillion other women around the world, the menstrual cycle is unkind to us. In some cases, our employers are just as unkind. My definition of ‘unkind’ being ‘misogynistic, pompous assholes.’ Every job I’ve held with the exception of 1.5 (.5 being my current employer LMAO) has given much backlash when it came to my reproductive health. Never been terminated; however, suspended or received little to no hours for scheduled workdays. Or even make up for time missed. Being suspended from my current employer due to my Endo in February sparked the brainchild for ThaMonthly. Flare ups with my condition became extremely severe in 2021. The majority of that year was spent in the ER every month. I started with my current company in Septem

ThaMonthly 7.15.22. III Ouuuu, Baby! ___ By Chrys D. ‘Ouuu Baby BayBay!’ …ba baby baby!!! First let me start by saying I no longer desire to conceive a child. I know that sounds a tad callous to say, but it’s a truth. I also have an extremely valid reason as well. I’ll explain.  In the 1st couple years of my marriage, my baby fever was so fucking intense! My brother & his girlfriend at the time just had their first child. At the time I was knee deep in crafting, & had created selfie frames for several baby showers. I was just genuinely happy to be around that energy. Meanwhile at home, my Endo was so out of whack, when I missed a period I’d run out for a pregnancy test. Only to be disappointed with the result each time. Private heartbreak. I’d later learn that having a kid with “him” wasn't the move anyway. (pictured with my nephew Caleb Jr. 2015) Although I experienced the sadness of potential infertility due to Endo, I was never discouraged from CELEBRATING OTHERS!  In 2

ThaMonthly 6.10.22. II It’s Giving Hopeless. ___ By Chrys D. ‘I HATE! YOU SO MUCH RIGHT NOW!’ …you get on my nerves. So as we all know, the body is already a peculiar sort. But chile THE FEMALE BODY IS A WHOLE NOTHER MONSTER! You can possess the perfect body with an impeccable bill of health & still be blindsided. Aight so, once upon a time, I was a stripper. I’d like to call myself an ‘exotic entertainer’ because I was actually an optical illusion on that pole (LOL!) I digress. I worked with a chick who danced by the name Sincere. 5’7, caramel skinned with an AMAZING body. Every time she touched that stage, I was mesmerized.  One night, she came to work sick as fuck. As makeup was being applied & hair being tousled, she began to look super pale in the face. As she rose wobbly from her chair, she passed out immediately. I called 911 as I made a mad dash towards our manager.  A few days later, Sincere is back at work, regular & well. I let her know she scared the shit out of