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 ThaMonthly 

10.22.22

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But, Do I Matter Tho?

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By Chrys D. 

‘Life is like a box of chocolates…’

… you never know what you’re gonna get. 

There is no fucking reason a woman should feel her job (or anything for that matter) will be jeopardized due to her reproductive condition! No way!! As women we already have to endure so much. For the demographic of women that currently (or luckily never) have had this issue, I commend you! To the other women (like myself) who periodically are subjected to this, I’m so incredibly sorry. 

My last job tried to terminate me because leaving work to go to the hospital for a ruptured cyst was a “6th absence”. So they suspended me until they had a ‘verdict’ on if they would fire me in the next 4 days. 

I resigned. 


The last few weeks have been very reflective. I’ve truly been allowing myself grace to know my full worth & that I MATTER. That I don’t have to stay anywhere I’m not valued. I’m learning that my past does not have to infiltrate my future. And most of all, what I go about doing with my body is my choice. You can also be loved the correct way, it is possible! Don’t ever feel like your body is a burden. Several instances in my previous marriage made me feel this way. It ended up extremely violent, so I left. Gang please know you always deserve better!!



Eight months ago, I did not expect the outcome of what I was brainstorming as ThaMonthly. When I launched six months ago, the timing & manner in which ThaMonthly started to come together was so organic & beautiful, yet fast. I doubted myself, because I didn’t want this to slip through my fingers. I came close to quitting on several occasions. But yall as my ever-faithful CUCCIGANG stuck by me, & for this I am forever grateful.

Together, we will keep fighting. Cheers to the next 6 months! I love yall, & as always Thanks for Vibing wih ThaMonthly!

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